When it comes to sex positions,
after a while it's only natural
to fall back on your old favorites.
And there's nothing really
wrong with that -- except
that, well, it's kind of dull.
So mix things up! Experiment!
Surprise your guy with something
unexpected! After all, making
even subtle changes to your
current go-to list can mean
the difference between a sex
life that's fine -- and one
that's on fire.
Digging Deep
We're most familiar with
man-on-top positions. They're
great for gazing lustily into
each other's eyes. And as
an added bonus, they're terrific
for deep penetration. For
fans of deep, intense penetration
and enthusiastic thrusting,
you can't beat this position.
With this variation, the
top half of your body can't
move much, but you can make
up for it by moving your pelvis
both up and down and side
to side. First, lie back on
the bed with your torso and
bottom on the bed and your
legs resting on the floor.
When he penetrates, you bend
your knees back toward your
stomach while he supports
himself on his hands and thrusts
forward. It's best for him
to keep one of his legs on
the floor for support and
the other on the bed for balance.
If it still doesn't feel like
he's penetrated deeply enough
-- you greedy girl! -- pull
your knees even further back
and rest your calves on his
shoulders, or, heck, show
off by demonstrating just
how handy that Pilates class
really was by crossing your
ankles behind his neck. Add
extra frisson by holding your
own hands above your head
to give the illusion you're
tied up. (Better still, get
him to actually do it!)
The Sex Squat
Urgent, animal and aggressive,
rear-entry positions are used
by most couples when they're
both massively turned on.
He can thrust more powerfully
here than in any other position,
and while some women flinch
at the thought ("Ouch!
You just hit my cervix!"),
most are huge fans. Because
you can't see each other,
it's great for fantasizing
(being unfaithful is obviously
much better in your head than
actually in your bed!). And
although it looks energetic,
you can respond as little
or as much as you like. Up
the lust level by doing it
in front of a mirror -- or
vary it by alternating between
leaning forward on your forearms
and sitting up straight, leaning
back and letting him kiss
your neck.
For my new twist on that
old favorite, you'll need
a chair, and it's important
that it's sturdy. If you can,
secure it against something
or put it near a table or
window ledge (a good idea,
maybe, to draw the curtains
while you're there), which
he can grab onto to keep things
steady. Once that's set up,
you stand on the chair facing
away from him, then get in
a squatting position with
your hands on the back of
the chair for support. He
puts his hands on your waist
or clasps the top of your
thighs and penetrates gently.
It may help if he puts one
leg on the chair to keep it
steady while leaving the other
on the floor. As I said, keep
it s-l-o-w. Move your bottom
from side to side for a unique,
intense sensation.
Top to Bottom
If you like your body and
enjoy being boss in bed, woman
on top is perfect for you.
You're in complete control
of how fast and how deep he
thrusts, and you're in a good
position to kiss, touch, tease
him -- even tie him up.
Don't attempt this next new
position until you're ready
for him to orgasm, because
orgasm he will -- rather rapidly.
This position is extra stimulating
for any guy who likes looking
at your bottom (are there
any who don't?) and for you
if you like anal play. In
fact, it puts him in the perfect
position to gently insert
a well-lubricated finger into
your anus during intercourse
(don't knock it till you've
tried it -- tons of women
love this!) so you get the
delicious sensation of being
completely "filled up."
Visually, for him, it's stunning:
He gets a rarely afforded,
intimate view of your bottom
and genitals. (You might think,
Gross! But he thinks, Great!)
You'll like it because it
feels primal and erotic knowing
he's looking at a very private
area.
You'll need a chair for this
position as well, and it's
best if it's sturdy with no
arms. He sits on it in the
usual manner, while you go
on all fours on the floor
in front of him, facing away
from him. He then pulls you
toward him and lifts your
legs up to wrap them around
his waist. You're supporting
yourself on your hands as
he penetrates. With his hands
on your buttocks, he moves
you back and forth to thrust
rather than moving his own
pelvis (he's not being lazy,
he just can't move much).
The "Top to Bottom"
looks extremely impressive
but it's actually dead easy
to do. You have to have reasonable
arm strength, but that shouldn't
be a problem because you regularly
lift weights at the gym, right?
(Now there's an incentive!)
The Sideways Swoon
I always think of side-entry
sex as Sunday-morning sex:
lazy, relaxed and (literally)
laid-back. After all, you
really can only do this one
lying down. If you're in the
mood for a romantic, leisurely
-- but no less erotic -- encounter,
this is the one for you. (It's
also ideal if you're pregnant.)
While it lacks the urgency
or deep penetration of other
positions, side-entry sex
features on most couples'
"favorite" list
simply because the starting
position, spooning, is how
lots of couples tend to sleep.
And if you're going to bed
or waking up a little, well,
horny, it seems like the most
natural thing in the world
to take advantage of; with
his bits against your bottom,
which is so close to other
inviting parts and... Gosh!
How did that happen?
In this side-entry variant,
you both lie on your sides
and get into the classic "spoon"
position. He enters from behind
to assume the traditional
side-entry sex position. You
then bring your knees up to
your chest, altering both
the penetration and angle
of entry and adding an erotic
edge. He molds himself into
you, and you both end up in
an almost fetal position.
You can alter the mood a
bit by trying a different
leg position. Lie on your
side, but instead of having
your legs straight, lift one
up toward the ceiling (like
the leg lifts you do at the
gym: one leg on the floor,
the other high in the air).
He enters, keeping his legs
between yours, which are parted
as wide as you can. As he's
thrusting, he's (how handy!)
in the perfect position to
reach around with his hand
and stimulate your clitoris.
Location, Location,
Location
The bed may be comfy and
convenient, but there are
tons of other options:
